Burning in Hot Laver

    I have a cute video from when our kids were young, that I ran across the other day. I’m not sure how old Junior was but he was explaining to me how he had had to jump from furniture to furniture without touching the floor because it was “hot laver.” I tried to correct him, “You mean hot lava?” But he would have none of it. He knew the word. So he corrected me and slowly mouthed the words, “hot l-a-v-e-r”, thinking I didn’t really know. I tried to explain to him that the word was actually “lava” but it didn’t sink in. He jumped from the couch to the chair to avoid burning up in the hot laver.
    Sometimes we just have our minds made up and refuse to be confused with the facts. I’m guilty of it as well. Now that Junior is grown, I still try to correct him. Earlier today while we argued about the identity of someone in a recent event, he said, “Look up the news story on the internet.” I did to prove I was right. I wasn’t; he was. Bummer!
    While many of these stories can be humorous and I know there is a certain amount of stubbornness in all of us, as a pastor, I have been grieved time and again when trying to help, correct or warn one of the sheep, only to encounter that same stiffened neck and unwillingness to receive correction. In those situations, there almost always is a lot more at stake….and I am never happy about being right in the end.
    In the Book of Proverbs, the major theme is differentiating the wise man from the foolish man. In essence, that is the difference. The wise man is teachable, eager to learn, willing to be admonished. The foolish man, on the other hand, has his stubborn mind made up, thinks he knows it all, and has too much pride to accept correction from anyone else.
    Which one are you?
    And that’s why, as parents, our first duty to our children, while they are still very young, is to establish authority and instill an eagerness to listen to Mom and Dad and learn from them. Children who are rarely corrected are apt to grow into adults who refuse to be corrected. Hence, we train them to be what Solomon warned us against: the fool.
    As I look back over my life so far, pivotal times were precipitated by key conversations with people who cared about me enough to offer correcting advice. I’m glad I began reading Proverbs early in my Christian life and knew enough about how God works to be open to the advice of those wiser than me, even when their words were painful to hear.
    What kind of important corrections have you been turning a deaf ear to? Are you the wise man and eager to have your thinking challenged? Or are you responding with what you are sure is right, “l-a-v-e-r”?